Navigating Christmas with a loved one in a care home

The festive season can bring a mix of emotions when you have a loved one in a care home. While Christmas can be filled with warmth and joy, it may also stir up feelings of sadness, guilt, or even helplessness. But remember, there are small ways to help make this season feel meaningful and connected for you and your loved one, no matter where you celebrate.

Here are a few ideas to help you create special moments:

1. Bring Christmas to them

Add small, festive touches to their room that feel familiar and comforting, but remember that anything new or different could cause confusion or even pose a hazard depending on the stage of their dementia. For some, familiar items like a mini Christmas tree or a cosy blanket can help create a warm and cosy atmosphere.

2. Plan a visit

Try to schedule visits on or near Christmas Day if possible. Many care homes understand how important these times are and may have special visiting arrangements. Make your time together extra special by bringing along some seasonal flowers or a favourite treat to share. 

3. Share small gifts with meaning

If you’re planning to take gifts, keep them simple and personal. Items that feel good to touch, like a soft scarf or slippers, can provide comfort. Photos in small albums or a framed family picture might bring them joy and spark memories. 

4. Take advantage of technology

If you can't visit in person, consider a video call on Christmas Day. While it might not feel the same as being there, seeing each other's faces can still make a huge difference. 

5. Join in care home festivities

Many care homes host events or special meals around Christmas, and sometimes family members are welcome to join in. Being part of the community’s celebration can help your loved one feel connected and supported, and you can share some joyful moments together.

6. Make peace with changing traditions

It's okay if this Christmas feels different. Being flexible with your traditions and focusing on creating moments of joy, no matter how small, can help ease the heartache. Instead of the usual big family gatherings, try to embrace new, smaller traditions that bring you both comfort. 

7. Take care of yourself

Supporting a loved one in a care home can be emotionally challenging, especially over Christmas. Make sure you’re allowing yourself time to rest, reflect, and connect with others who understand. This can be as simple as sharing your feelings with family or taking a quiet moment for yourself to recharge.